‘’The tree does not bother about flowers that fall. It is always busy making new flowers blossom. Life is not about what we lost so far, it’s about what we can still grow.’
I stumbled upon this awesome quote today morning and it really made my day. Nature is all about purple passages of bettering itself.
Vidya, a psychologist was disturbed with the condition of her patient Ria.
She was running a diagnostic interview trying to figure out the symptoms of her client. She started with finding out whether her patient runs a high risk for psychosis or a general suspicious behavior. She probed her client for Paranoia Ideation and asked her to scale it.
The Interview Transcript follows:
“Do you think other people spy on you? “
She replied: All the time, I don’t know why they pick on me and the monologue went from sentences, paragraphs to pages in one take.
“Have you been lied to?’’
Yes from my mother to my boyfriend, everyone in my life .The story went from paragraphs to pages again.
Vidya offered her client a chocolate thinking that it may lift her mood.
Ria reacted bang on with an emphatic No. She shrugged her head and said,
“Are you kidding? You want to poison me? You work for Eric? Did he ask you to kill me? Tell me the truth’’.
This is how a normal day goes in the life of Vidya, the psychologist. All these occupational hazards come free of cost with their profession.
Ria was not ready to talk more.
Vidya took a bite of the same chocolate she offered to Ria and rescheduled her appointment.
‘’See, I like you that’s why I’ve given you this. Next time when you come, you get me a chocolate okay.’’
Vidya thought of her best buddy, priya who is a positive person at any given time. Priya is always positive, helpful and not at all revengeful. It’s her firm conviction that every stranger is a friend and god sent everyone to help her progress in life.
This state of mind is called ‘’Pronoia’’ which is opposite of paranoia. This is also called as reverse paranoia when you experience that the whole universe collaborates positively on your behalf. The positive affirmation literature talks volumes about the power of affirmations, law of attraction in transforming the current realities to a better future.
My favorite one is from the novel Alchemist –
And, when you want something, the entire universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist says. In this all-time best seller, the central character, a young boy is told by an elder man to follow his dreams. It was a key note for “Zippies” who does something for nothing like volunteering time in orphanages and old-age homes, offering free food, developing free software’s, free courses the list keeps adding on.
J. D. Salinger’s famous novella, “In his Raise High the Roof Beam, Carpenters and Seymour: An Introduction’’, the character Seymour depicts himself as a Pronoic type: “I am a kind of paranoid in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.”
There was a metaphoric dog that entered a mirror house surrounded by mirrors all around. He has spotted so many dogs there and started barking at them. He has seen all the lookalike dogs barking back at him. After barking continuously for hours, he got tired and sat down and his tail wagged somehow. All the dogs wagged theirs too. The dog got his realization that the world is a reflection of your mind and carried that attitude home.
So the question arises to a student of logic –
Does Pronoia exist just like paranoia?
Well, harboring feelings of peace, trust, love, hope and dependence is far better that holding a grudge against the world .If you know how to harness it, it can be the best attitude you can carry around.
The flip side of my pronoaic friend, priya is that people take advantage of her soft demeanor. Her tenants pay their monthly rents in different installments to her while they are prompt on financial dealings with others. She goes to attend wedding events she doesn’t like as she can’t say no to a good friend. She inflicts pain on her many times due to this behavior as she says she is wired that way and can’t be selfish.
A paranoid individual reason, without any foundation in reality, that everyone one is plotting against him. A pronoid individual, on the contrary, thinks without any rhyme or reason that everyone likes him. Both are defense mechanisms of the mind created by life events, external situations and personality factors when faced with reality.
I need to guide Ria to live in the present moment.- Vidya thought and she got another visitor at her clinic.Knock, knock.
Disclaimer: This is a work of fiction. Names, events and incidents are the products of the author’s imagination. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental.